Grief Circle

Holding Space for Heartbreak

Let Your Sadness Be Witnessed

Step into a circle where your heart can be heard. Our Grief Circle is a dedicated time and space for naming the waves of loss, regrets, and disappointments, feeling them fully, and finding calm together. Here, you’ll never be rushed, fixed, or interrupted—only listened to with warmth and compassion.

What Is a Grief Circle?

A Grief Circle is a sharing circle designed for one voice at a time. There is no other agenda than allowing space for every participant’s voice to be heard.
There will be no advice, comments, or solutions. No explanations or ‘that’s nothing compared to what I experienced’.
Each person’s emotions are reflected with resonance or held in silence, creating a container where raw grief can find a home.

Why This Circle Matters

When grief seizes our nervous system, we can feel hopeless or immobilized—unable to think, connect, or find comfort.
Being seen and heard by others who allow us space without trying to make it go away helps settle the nervous system with the message: You are not alone. You matter, and so does your grief.
Sharing our emotional state with others transforms isolation into sweet relief, and connection is woven through the act of being witnessed and witnessing others.

Not all sadness emerges from the loss of loved ones. Regrets over roads not taken, the ache of broken dreams, or sorrow for the state of the world also find a home here. We welcome every form of heartache, holding each story and emotion with equal tenderness so that all that had built up can be witnessed and released.

“Daily grieving is my most important self-care practice, as it allows me to let go of what would otherwise stay stuck in my emotional system.” Robert Gonzalez, NVC trainer

What to Expect

  • A serene online space where one person speaks at a time

  • Clear guidelines to secure trust, confidentiality, and choice

  • Mindful silence or gentle resonance after each share

  • Warm rigour in how the space is held so that the Grief Circle happens as intended

Who Facilitates

Pernille Plantener and Anna Banas, both Certified Trainers of Nonviolent Communication and Coaches, hold the circle with steady presence. Their regulated nervous systems become the anchors that allow every participant to relax into safe social engagement.

Practical Details

  • Date: 9th of October, 8:30-10:00 am CEST. Find your time zone here

  • Duration: This Grief Circle runs for 90 minutes online via Zoom

  • Maximum: Seats are limited to 18 to ensure everyone has space for speaking and to hold the collective intensity.

  • Price: We charge 10 EUR for participation

  • Safety: The Zoom room is protected to avoid Zoom trolling.

Good to know

If you’re in a very raw, traumatized state, let us know so we can offer individual deep listening or coaching instead.

Join us and discover how naming your emotions while being witnessed by warm-hearted peers can bring deep release and dissolve your isolation.

  • “This circle taught me that grief isn’t only for those we’ve lost. Regrets, broken hopes, sadness about the world—all of it belongs here, and it becomes softer when it’s witnessed.”

  • “When ‘What breaks your heart?’ landed in my lap, I opened up about losses I’d never voiced. I left feeling lighter and more connected than I’ve felt in months.”

  • “I carried regret over a career dream I abandoned. Naming that in the circle, and having others nod and look at me with that special ‘I know what you mean’ look in their eyes, brought unexpected peace.”

  • “Hearing others’ heartbreak over everything from environmental despair to broken friendships showed me my grief belongs here—whatever its source.”

  • “For the first time, I felt truly heard—no fixing, no advice, just pure presence. It was a relief to let my tears land without judgment.”

A bit of neurobiology:

When our nervous system is activated into any state of fight/ flight/ alarmed aloneness or the collapsing experience of freeze/immobilization, our body gets jittery or frozen, out of balance, desperate. We can muscle through, push it aside, or distract ourselves, but the collapse is still there. It may show up as somatic symptoms or leaving us flat-minded. This is not good for children or others seeking comfort with us. Neither is it a good state for dialogue or decisions, as it impairs our cognitive functions. And it clutters our presence in this unique experience called life.

To settle the pressure of the dammed emotions, we can name them and let someone listen with warmth and understanding. When someone else nods and responds with a face that our experience makes sense, then the feedback goes to the nervous system that the message is delivered, and the body can settle.

Often, we cannot do this by ourselves; we need someone to be there and receive us, emotionally.  Moving into grief can feel sweet in the midst of pain when we allow others to witness our grief.

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